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#279817 - Wed Feb 05 2003 03:47 AM
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How rude is it to tell a friend (in a short manner) to stop e-mailing attachments because they maxxed out your inbox? How about if those attachments were a mutual friends wedding pictures? What if the reciever did not get replies from potential employers because of said large attachments? What if the sender sent the same set of pictures twice by accident?How rude is it? How annoyed would you be in either situation?
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It is not rude to let them know what the situation is. They surely meant no harm. The key is to be diplomatic and explain the situation with due care. Perhaps it would be nice if they also compressed stuff and then asked your permission first before sending it. Likewise, many ISPs offer a certain amount of webspace and they could post the pertinent images there, and then just let you know via email where the gallery is. I.E. a simple link.
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If they accidentally send you the same set twice, then just delete one set. It's a simple as that. And like Wraith said, don't worry about being rude. If you explain the situation they will understand. And another point. Save the pics to your hard drive, then delete the message. You still have the pictures but you have the space as well.
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All has happened already.Was told that I'd never be sent anything again. Went doh. Figured out I'd been rude. Sent apology. No reply. Now seeking second opinion. Hello. Still no word from said potential employers. Though I probably wasn't offered a job anyway. *sigh* Am regretting that I put foot in it. But resending one megabyte (three pictures) because you'd forgotten that I was in the first mailout list... And then sending several 200-300kb forwards to fill up the rest of the three meg I had saved 'just in case'... I thought I was righteously pissed. Sender of attachments didn't think I was, and is offended. Sender is also friend. Wishing to make things good again.
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this is why the "never post in anger" rule is a good one to follow. (in RL face-to-face, it goes under "count to 10 before you say anything".)so many things are said in haste that take up tremendous amounts of time and energy to undo. no doubt this explains why so many cultures have proverbs dealing with the situation. "Make your words sweet as honey, for tomorrow you might need to eat them." -- American Indian "Lord, keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth." -- current t-shirt
at any rate, as far as practical advice goes....
try sending your potential employers an e-mail, explaining that since your account had been crashed by a sudden influx of e-mail (you do NOT need to provide specifics), you simply wanted to touch base with them to be sure that you hadn't lost any information they might have sent during that period. they may then either tell you that there was nothing to miss, be polite enough to tell you that no job was being offered, or else repeat any offer that might have been extended. regarding your friend... apologizing face-to-face might be the best alternative, if that is feasible. second choice might be a phone call. say once again you're sorry for blowing up at them; you just got very stressed because potential employment opportunities were being jeopardized. if your friend is at all understanding, you ought to be able to patch things up at some point. if neither of those options are doable, try writing a letter. (e-mails might not do anything for you right now, though, if they have been equally hasty and perhaps put your name on their "ignore" list.)
BTW, i can sympathize with your feelings. there was someone who always used to send me (and several others) a regular stream of "inspirational" e-mails. however, when she got to the point of forwarding e-mail hoaxes, i told her (and all the other addys) to please check before forwarding cr@p like that. don't think i've gotten anything from her since then. but then again, sometimes absence is better than mindless drivel.
lachesis
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I get people who are constantly sending me large files which I don't want or need. I just tell them what I think of their stupid forwards, and I think well if they get offended its not my problem, I don't care. People generally give up sending me annoying me emails like that and if they continue to be friendly to me than thats fine, if they don't then you have to ask what sort of friend are they that they get in a strop over something like that, and stop talking to you? I don't want to be friends with people who break good friendships just because I don't like annoying forwards.
OK thats very blase but it works for me. Most of the people have stopped sending me stupid forwards without having to stop being friends with them.
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Well we got a nice handsome young man to come and pose for us. He couldn't do it so we got the Dude in the suit to come along instead! And ermm thank you Noelle for the *ahem* makeover! Thank you to Light for the freaky effects things!!
~Homer J Simpson~
"If I Went to a BBQ and there was no meat, I'd be Like: Hey Dilbert! Where's the Meat?"
"If something's hard to do, then its not worth doing."
"Doh! Nuts! hmmm... Doughnuts"
"Hey Marge, remember when we used to make out to this tune? hehehe"
"Exactly my sentimonies!"
"Every time I learn something new, It pushes the old stuff out of my brain! Like the time we went to that Beer making festival, it pushed how to drive out of my head!"
"Hey Selma, it's Homer here. Yep... uh-huh... yeah... Listen just shut up will you, and I'll tell you something..."
"There wasn't a message on the answerphone before we left... How very Strange..."
"All My Life I've been an Obese man trapped inside a Fat Mans Body!!"
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Yeep. >< Dern attachments... may they burn!Like Lady lachesis said, face-to-face is best, and be sure you explain everything when you apologize. And... as I know from painful experiance... blowing up at friend after apologizing for friend being annoying is generally not suggested. Yes, I'm an idiot. Eeeh... ::re-reads post:: I need more sleep...
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I have that problem, but my friends all have this wonderful habit of sending me pointless chainletters
or 'get to know your friends' surveys, each of which has over 100 questions, and all of the same questions in each of them, just in a different order
and then i get the attatchments within attatchments within attatchments (etc etc and so on) where i've finally just ended up deleting almost all of the attatchment stuff i get from my friends because i can never get to whatever it was they tried to sent me.ANYWAY, my point being (i think i had a point...), that i would have to agree with Lady lachesis in that your best bet would be talking with your friend face to face, because i have found that it is the best way to resolve a situation (lets just say that my friends are all major drama queens and stuff like this happens a lot....  )
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Ahhh, thankyou all for your advice. Most helpful. I'll be able to talk with the friend in question face to face soon enough. I feel much better now  Hopefully next time I'll heed the 'never post in anger' bit when I need to ask something of people. Unfortunately the employers in question were contacted via a middle man employment company. I can't contact them again. I'm pretty sure the jobs are filled, therefore I can't apply a second time. But, there are other jobs.
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